Boy crazy! Why is my daughter desperate for affirmation?

NEGATIVE INFLUENCERS 

Teenagers being boy crazy or girl crazy or both has been happening since the beginning of time.

The need for external affirmation and validation to define one’s self worth is not uncommon. It affects children as well as adults, and most people experience it at some point in their lives. What teens have now in social media however is a false and extreme measure of self worth based on how many “likes” or followers they have.

OPEN DIALOGUE

How does this relate to attention from the opposite sex for your boy crazy daughter? It’s really important to have an open dialogue with them not only about sex, consent and respect, but also about what a negative influence social media can be. Research consistently shows that the more information kids have the more likely they are to make better decisions.

A MORE BALANCED VIEW

There is something you can do to lessen your child’s need for affirmation whatever the source. It’s essential to help your kid find outlets that inspire her creatively, physically and socially. In doing this we can help our kids gain more balance in how they get their affirmation. There’s more to say about it, and we get into the topic in this Tips on Teens:

“My daughter is sixteen and she’s totally boy crazy. We allow her to date, and we’ve talked about safe sex and consent. Our real concern is that her whole identity seems based on who likes her and who doesn’t. It goes beyond male attention too. She’s obsessed with how many ‘likes’ she gets on social media. Is there anything we can do to help her be less desperate for this kind of affirmation?”

Clinical Director Kent Toussaint answers your parenting questions every Wednesday at 12:00pm in our weekly segment Tips On Teens on Facebook Live. Have questions about parenting kids and teens? Send them to: TipsOnTeens@TeenTherapyCenter.com. We love to hear from you!

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If you have more questions or would like more information, please contact our Clinical Director, Kent Toussaint at 818.697.8555.