Is Your “Lazy Teenager” Going To Be The Death of You?

Is your “lazy teenager” going to be the death of you?

If you’ve tried everything you can think of to motivate your “lazy teen” but feel like you’re going crazy, don’t give up! The first thing to know is that you need to make sure you are getting the support you need. When working through these types of issues with our kids, we as parents need to be grounded. That way we can approach our child in a compassionate way that will make a difference. Your teen isn’t qualified to take the high road so you will be the one who has to do it.

Influence Through Connection

You can’t make your 17 year old do anything, but you can have influence. Your kid needs something strong and stable to push away from, so it’s important to make sure you maintain a connection with your kid. There are a lot of different strategies to motivate your “lazy teen” and we talk about how to get started in this Tips on Teens video:

“My 17yo is going to be the death of me. He’s literally a genius but he’s the laziest. He smokes weed, vapes, barely passes his classes and won’t take his ADHD meds. He also refuses counseling when he’s depressed or suffering from anxiety. He’s a Junior in HS but I’m terrified he’s going to drop out. I literally can’t MAKE him do anything. He’s not combative or confrontational except for the occasional anger outburst. I worry about him not being motivated to do ANYTHING after High School. Plus my wife and I are always fighting and his dad isn’t very helpful either. I’m about ready to just give up.”

Clinical Director Kent Toussaint answers your parenting questions every Wednesday at 12:00pm in our weekly segment Tips On Teens on Facebook Live. Have questions about parenting kids and teens? Send them to: We love to hear from you!

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