DIGITAL DATING AND ADHD KIDS
So your ADHD, socially withdrawn kid is leaning heavily on digital communication and now has a boyfriend online. There are a lot of issues to address here.
First, you’re not going to be able to stop the relationship from happening, but you can foster a connection with your child where you can talk about what is a healthy relationship and what boundaries are. Creating connection and a safe, accepting environment for your kid to talk is essential so you can discuss what a healthy relationship looks like, and it’s something that comes up a lot in our Tips on Teens segments.
The ability of your 17 year old kid with ADHD to set boundaries is probably limited. She most likely will need your help, and she still will most likely push back on that help. But… providing those examples now of what a healthy relationship is and what boundaries are important will help her later in life. And most importantly, by focusing on connection and creating a relationship where she feels she can talk to, you’ll hopefully be the one she comes to for advice when she’s in trouble.
THERE’S LOTS TO SAY!
There’s a lot more to respond to in this question, and we take it on in this Tips on Teens:
“My 17 yr old daughter was diagnosed with ADHD, social anxiety and stress. She is shy and doesn’t get social cues easily, so she loves to text more than talk in person. Recently, she confessed that she met a boy online and they are online dating. He is from the town where we previously lived and she saw him in person when we were on vacation there. We had no idea since she said she was meeting with some friends. My biggest concern is she already lacks human connection socially and is more online now with this person. We are assuming to let it play it out. However, I don’t know if this is a good idea since we are not breaking the habit of being online. She will be going off to college in the summer in a different state. It is making me very nervous. Any help is appreciated.”
Clinical Director Kent Toussaint answers your parenting questions every Wednesday at 12:00pm in our weekly segment Tips On Teens on Facebook Live. Have questions about parenting kids and teens? Send them to: TipsOnTeens@TeenTherapyCenter.com. We love to hear from you!
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