My kid is scared he won’t make new friends at school…

Is your kid worried about making friends, or making a certain kind of friends?

Is your child is having lots of anxiety about not knowing anyone when they go back to school. There are a lot of things that could be going on. Eating lunch all alone is no fun. But how much of it could be your kid’s own self judgement about the types of friends they want to have? Is your kid worried about having “cool” friends? Is there a way to show them that the “nerdy” kid could end up being a really great friend?

Be a sounding board, be a collaborator, but tread lightly!

When it comes to talking to your teen about their back to school anxiety, it’s less about what you say and more about how you listen. Mirror and reiterate his or her words so they know you understand what they’re feeling. Give your child the option to just be a sounding board. If they want you to try and work it out with them, and then tread lightly! Get more tips in this week’s Tips on Teens Video. Here’s this week’s question:

“My son is about to go back to school in person next week. He’s starting 10th grade, and since we were online the whole time, he hardly knows anyone. It’s almost like he’s starting out as a freshman at a brand new school. He’s pretty socially adept, but he’s having tons of anxiety and he says he’s really scared he won’t make any friends. What can I say to help him out or ease his anxiety?”

Clinical Director Kent Toussaint answers your parenting questions every Wednesday at 12:00pm in our weekly segment Tips On Teens on Facebook Live. Have questions about parenting kids and teens? Send them to: We love to hear from you!

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